This new moon has got me feelin' ALL the feelings! During new moons, I always set new intentions for whatever shifts I feel I need in my life. Lately, I've given a lot of thought to redefining my non-negotiables. If you do not know what a non-negotaible is, they are the things that we commit to NO MATTER WHAT. This can include your beliefs, morals, practices or anything else you feel YOU need to stay balanced, healthy and true to yourself. Truthfully, I haven't been very true to myself when it comes to my non-negotiables lately. I've been sleeping in rather than waking up early to practice and sit with myself before my day starts. I've been sleeping till I HAVE to roll out of bed to avoid being late. I've been grabbing a protein bar as I run out of the house rather than making myself a healthy breakfast (a result of sleeping in) and then my whole day gets thrown off. The rest of my day is all about serving others, but that gets really draining when I don't serve myself first. What do I mean by that? I mean that if I'm not taking care of myself and making sure that all my needs are met- mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually then I'm not able to operate at my full capacity to help others. This is how coaches and healers get burnt out. I LOVE what I do and I wouldn't change my career path for anything, but I do know that I need to make sure that my battery is fully charged before I leave my house without a charger. Does that make sense? I hope so!
HOW DO WE SET NON-NEGOTIABLES?
What I like to do first is journal about whatever my present day life is like, the good and the not so good. Once I get some clarity, I make a list of the things I want to work on then I write 1-2 solutions or desired replacement patterns next to them. For instance, if I write down that I want to work on not constantly feeling overworked, I could write "no work before 9 am and no work after 6 pm" as a non-negotiable for myself. After I journal everything out of my system and I get clear on which things I want to prioritize, I like to practice this simple ritual.
First, I'll grab a piece of paper and I'll write down some negative/unwanted emotions, behaviors or thoughts that I want to replace with something more healthy. I'll write " I release __________." Examples could include anger, resentment, fear or judgement. After that, I'll write down positive emotions, behaviors or thoughts that I want to bring into my life. I'll write " I plant seeds of ____________." Examples of this could include self-love, self-acccptance, joy, humility and so on. What does it mean to plant seeds? It's all the NEW behaviors or patterns you want to "plant" or begin implementing into your life. Each time you practice these new patterns, it gives your little seeds water to blossom. Once you are done, you can (safely) burn the piece of paper.
THE DECLARATION OF NON-NEGOTIABLES
Ya'll know I'm believer in the power of accountability. With that said, I'm going to declare my new non-negotaibles to all of you because even coaches need accountability. Declaring your intention is a VERY powerful practice, especially outloud to your community. To declare your non-negotiables, you can do a few things:
Set alarm clocks/reminders on your phone
Put up post-it notes around your house as reminders
Tell your friends and loved ones then ask them to hold you accountable by doing check-ins with you
Set up a reward system for yourself for when you meet certain goal
SO...HERE IT IS:
I am committed to waking up no later than 6 am every morning for my sadhana (Sanskrit for daily spiritual practice).
I am committed to eating foods that nourish my mind and my body. Yes, this includes chocolate.
I am committed to making sleep a priority.
I am committed to giving myself permission to say NO when I don't want do so something or when something is not in alignment with my values, vision and heart.
I am committed to spending at least one day a week (all day) in nature without my phone.
I am committed to giving myself time alone to recharge.
These may seem simple, but these are my essentials. I talk about going back to the basics often because I think it's really important to do when you get sidetracked...and we ALL get sidetracked. Going back to the basics isn't the same as starting at square one, it's just allowing yourself to come back to center and recharge before you burn out. Recovery is built on consistency and it's built on the willingness to try different things until you find what works for you. Most of us will not make big and uncomfortable changes without the encouragement and accountability of our peers. It can even feel really challenging to admit that something even needs to change in the first place, right? I know I've been humbled by that experience more times than I'd like to admit.
Want to declare your non-negotiables? Let me know!
Accountability is powerful.